Sometimes I just look at places of worship and just sigh. As much as they often process that they're welcoming to all and that it doesn't matter who you are you're welcome often they're not. I think that the honest truth is that the signs and banners should really say "welcome as long as you agree with the majority." I know that not every one agrees on things in any congregation. However, when someone comes into many places of worship that is different from the majority ethos, they are not welcomed. I feel that church has become more about labeling. "This is the progressive church." "That's the conservative." "That's the church with a female pastor." "She's a republican, he's a democrat." You know the things people say. I'm sure I've said it about places many time. I'd like to see places of worship be different. How about we stop labeling the people that worship with us. How about we offer places where everyone can come together and not be labeled. We're just people who want to feel connected to something that's bigger then themselves and want to work on this connection in community. How about we offer places were we admit our brokenness, pain and struggles and realize that screwing a smiling on our faces doesn't address the issues in life. Offer a place where it's okay to curl up in a ball and cry if you need too or that you can have a good ole belly rolling laugh with. Where we hold each other accountable for moving in our spiritual journeys and push each other out of a place of love and concern. Church could be completely different, people could be completely different. It's something I know I'd value because I don't need another place where I get the B.S. How radical and uniquely holistic that could be.
As a minister I have the honor of performing rites and ceremonies for people at a variety of stages of life: baptisms, blessings, marriages, funerals, etc. I usually enjoy planning and leading these events. But lately I've had a rash of folks shocked that as a minister, I would have a fee to do some of these services. So lets talk about why I have fees. To start with, if you are a member of my congregation you do get my services as a part of my contract with the congregation as long as they are spelled out in the contract. Generally if you're a member of the congregation I serve, it is expected that I will preform baptisms, blessings, funerals, weddings, etc for you because I want to remind you of God's continuous blessing in your life and especially at important moments in your life. However some folks are shocked that there would be an honorarium suggested for the minister. The reality is that these blessings, weddings, funerals, etc. are extra work in our wee...
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