Chick-fil-a is no longer my friend.

When I moved from Des Moines, IA to Lexington, KY I was introduced to this place called Chick-fil-a. I love chicken and theirs is good...I mean good! I understood that the folks who own the company were conservative but then again isn't half of America? I was cool with letting them believe their own thing and I believe mine. But now records and statements come out about how millions of dollars are being spent to prevent my friends, family and people that I don't know from being officially allowed to be who they are. I have a major issues with this because they're dragging in my faith to speak for them. They're quoting Bible passages left and right to say that marriage is defined as 1 man and 1 woman. They're saying that marriage is the Church's to decide. Well let's take a look at all that's wrong with these statements. 1) Marriage did not start out as a Biblical act. It was an act of protecting property therefore it was a civil act first and foremost. Remember that until fairly recently women were viewed as property. Look at traditional marriage liturgies - "who gives this woman away?" - traditional to be answered by the eldest man of the house, father of the bride, "I do." Yup that's all about the historical principle of women as property. 2) marriage in the Bible has been examples. A man is take on a wife. If she doesn't produce a male then get another or have a concubine or 4 or 8. Have we forgotten about the "wonderful" example of King David? Abraham? Marriage doesn't look to great to me. I will argue that if you look even further into the topic of marriage and family it is to be about love. What is loving about 72 day marriages? What is loving about marriage number 4 or 5? That's not true love. That's fake crap that is projected about love. What is love? Watching your partner of 28 years fight infection after a major surgery from a far because you don't have the legal right to be at their hospital bedside. What is love? Adopting children who don't have parents and loving them and helping them become the people they're created to be as two moms or two dads.
So now we're at the argument of well if you boycott Chick-fil-a you will be hurting those people who need those jobs even if they stand with or against you. I understand that my decision to not darken the door of another Chick-fil-a until change occurs will hurt people and in this economy that's a scary thing. So why not do what is a biblical principle and support those individuals in need. How about instead of giving the money that pays them to a company I can't stand I'll give the money to you to buy groceries, put gas in your car, put clothes on your back. I'd rather cut out the middle man anyhow. How about we decide to support those folks and at the same time make it clear that Chick-fil-a's owner's opinions about being Christian, on marriage and what a family is does not and will not speak for me and my faith? How about we say that there are alternatives out there if people just get off our butts and do it? Now I think that's a message about family, the whole human family, that's biblical.