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Conflict in the Church 2 – Communication

Communication has gotten easier some say with text messaging, cell phones and all of the stuff on the internet. I use them all and love them. Probably would go crazy (yes I know some are saying I already am crazy) without it. With all of this communication stuff around us, why does it seem like the Church and churches still can’t communicate?

Once upon a time churches used letters, newsletters and calling trees and people seemed to know what they needed to know. Today we have even more means of contacting people and they still want to claim that “I never knew that.” Ironic.

Another issue I see the Church having is that people want to take social media forums that are designed to help promote the churches using them and turn them into places to vent frustrations and their problems with the church. I was never marketing major but from what I understand don’t you want to put your best self image out there? What would attract someone to a church were the social media page is littered with “if so and so would do this.” And “the problem is this, that or the other.” What says welcome about all of the dirty laundry being aired like that? What says “Jesus Loves Me” in those types of posts? I don’t believe that it’s the time and the place for it. I see it as another way people just go around the situations they face and complain about things, instead of going directly to the person, persons, groups, etc. that need to be addressed. Maybe if the Church would stop the talking behind people’s backs others wouldn’t find the Church to be so hypocritical and backstabbing and maybe they’d feel like joining the Church instead of running as far away as possible.

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